How To Be An Amazing Bridesmaid Or Groomsman
Hey future bridesmaids and groomsmen this guide is going to help you be awesome at whatever role you have whether it’s your first time or you’re in everyone’s wedding. This guide will also help you brides and grooms to get a rough idea of what your wearing party should be doing!
1. Realize How Important You Are
Helping to set the mood is key when you’re apart of the wedding party especially if you’ve been honored enough to be the maid of honor or or best man. Its your job to help set the mood for the day, it’s also your job to help filter out some of the negativity and tension and encourage excitement! The couple is depending on you to help carry some of the responsibility so anyway you can be helpful throughout the day by do it! This mood and flow is super important.
You guys know the couple better than anyone so anyway that you can help? If you know they may be prone to certain behaviors like stress, make it your business to destress.
Double points if you can sort out issues before they’re even aware of them, they’re going to want you to tell them everything but in my experience the least they know about potential problems, the better!
Your are vital to the success of the day!
2. Actual Help
This goes without saying, but it’s very easy for the glitz and the glamor after day to overtake you and you start to lose sight of what’s really important, which is to serve the couple. You guys are their closest friends so that means that it’s your responsibility to truly help not just make it seem like you are.
This could be filling up your car with decorations and unloading them at the venue, helping the bride go to the restroom, or staying at the venue to help clean.
This also means being involved in the planning process weeks or months before the actual wedding day. Help out with the vision of the day and leading up to it. You should be an integral part of the process and if they tell you they are OK they got this say no and choose something to do anyway! There’re just not trying to burden you. Pick up a responsibility and make it your own.
3. Know What’s Happening
You don’t necessarily need to have the photographer and coordinator on speed dial, but knowing their names can be useful.
You don’t necessarily have to know every single thing that’s gonna happen, but it would be helpful if you had a rough idea of the timeline and where people should be. It’s really easy during the day to get lost on who should be where and what time. An informed groomsmen or bridesmaid is there to help out and makes life this just that much more easier. Work with the vendors that your couple was hired. These are professionals that see what you’re seeing all the time. Trust them to make good decisions. If they need help with anything remember everything is all about making sure that the couple has a smooth day. The more on point you are the least the couple has to worry about.
4. It’s About Them
Am I time as a photographer? I haven’t had too many insane brides, but I have seen very selfish bridesmaids and groomsmen. I’ve actually had a few situations where certain members of the wedding party wanted to pull me away to try to get mini photo shoots of them during incredibly important moments of the day, wow 😒 your focus should be on your friend who is about to take one of the biggest steps in their entire life. Be present, take in this moment and enjoy the honor of being a part of such an event.
5. Be The Hype Man/Woman
Remember to be a cheerleader. Everything today is all about celebrating so you want to put out fires where you can and for the rest of the time be super enthusiastic! You’re going to be there to share all the amazing stories from the day and to stand beside them as they say their vows for the very first time it’s an extraordinary honor. To sum it all up I would say that your job is one of the most important You are the front line defense, top advisor and court jester. It’s a big task but you were chosen specifilay because of who you are, specifically because you can do it..
good luck 🍀